Recently, it seems as if every other post on my feed is a gift guide or sale alert! While I appreciate the ease of having options and deals all put together in one place for me, as so often happens on social media, I just don’t feel like it applies to us.
I always appreciate the questions from friends and family around holidays and birthdays regarding what to get the kids, and Y specifically. I will admit, it can get overwhelming. There is a lot to consider, both on Y’s end and for our friends and family as well. Gifts he’d prefer could be harder to locate, require ordering well in advance, or may not really seem like a gift in the traditional sense (of course this is a wonderful issue to have and I’m so grateful for the love and generosity of our circle!). If you find yourself in a similar situation, whether as someone looking to purchase a gift or someone looking for ideas to share with family, I’ve put together a few tips and ideas in an attempt to make gifting as stress-free and appropriate as possible! These are all aspects I take into consideration and I believe can be applied fairly generally. I hope this provides clarity and is insightful and helps to make this season a little less stressful!
5 Things To Keep In Mind:
Age / Popularity:
Many websites will highlight the best gifts for a certain age group or the hottest and most sought after toys of the year. While I appreciate the guidance this provides, it isn’t always applicable to Y. His interests remain fairly consistent and don’t necessarily change with the latest movie or series. The age range advertised does not reflect a wide developmental spectrum and is better understood as appropriate for children who are neurotypical and of that age. A gift labelled for a seven-year-old may not be accessible for a variety of reasons. Of course, this is all very personal and if the family or the recipient think it may work, then by all means, go for it!
Safety Considerations:
Please ask if there are any safety concerns that should be taken into consideration. You may see an item that you think is perfect, but if the recipient is currently in a stage where they are mouthing things / bringing everything to their mouth, for instance, smaller toys or things with batteries or magnets could pose a serious, elevated risk.
How You Wrap The Gift:
Accessibility doesn’t apply solely to the gift that you choose! I’ll admit, I love seeing all the gifts wrapped up in coordinating wrapping paper, piled lovingly, waiting to be excitedly torn into! For years I thought Y would love the act of ripping off the wrapping paper, with all it’s sensory and tactile fun! That wasn’t the case, and if anything, it just caused a lot of frustration. We’d help by ripping a little corner to help him start off and then guiding him to do the rest, but by the time he had removed a sufficient amount, he was no longer interested and re-directing him back to the actual gift could be difficult. The past few years, I’ve simply put his gift into gift bags with very little tissue paper or distractions and it has made all the difference! He happily pulls out each item and it’s less frustrating! Consider the developmental ability of the recipient and how they’re best able to access the gift in a way that is meaningful and enjoyable to them!
Expectations:
On that note, it’s so important to do what you can to make the experience memorable and enjoyable for the recipient. I’ll be the first to say that I love seeing reactions when gifts are being opened! The excitement is tangible and I can’t help but explain what it is, or point out fun features, and of course, hope that the reaction received is a favourable one that reflects my anticipation. Nothing compares to seeing Y light up, knowing that he feels seen and heard, that we gave him something he truly loves or enjoys. The way that he shows this is not always what others may expect. One year he ran to his room with the first item he opened, before opening any other gifts, and went to play right away! Another year, he matched the items while still in their boxes (matching is something he absolutely loves to do!) and didn’t want us to open them yet, as he smiled and concentrated on lining up the boxes. Of course, there have also been times he’s put down the item and has gone back to playing with whatever he was holding before. Giving him the space to experience and explore what he’s been given is so important and I always keep in mind that the respect shown to him in that moment is more important than the gift or our own need for acknowledgment.
Consider the Atmosphere / Environment:
Finally, building off of the previous point, as much as I love to see the reactions of the recipient, sometimes it’s just not the best option. Birthday or holiday parties can be a very overwhelming sensory experience. Between the crowd, multiple conversations taking place, lights, sounds, music, people walking around / moving from one area to another, smells of food and perfume etc., it’s A LOT. Having to be the center of attention, with everyone watching, as gifts are opened can just be too much. Taking the gift home or going to a quiet space alone to open it may be more meaningful and appropriate for the recipient. This doesn’t reflect any selfish, “anti-social,” or negative sentiment at all, it simply is what is best for the individual and if that is the case, respecting it and everything I’ve mentioned in the points above, is even greater than any physical gift!
I’ll be sharing Part 2 shortly, with gift ideas that are accessible in terms of developmental considerations as well as at a variety of price points! If you don’t want to miss it, make sure to subscribe to the blog or follow along at @ItsyBitsyBalebusta!
Tag: accessibility
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Gifting Guide (Part 1)
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Gairloch Gardens
Gairloch Gardens is one of the most beautiful locations I’ve ever visited! Everything about it exuded a sense of peacefulness and beauty, while still feeling welcoming . The grounds are immaculately maintained and it really encourages you to slow down, stop, and literally smell the roses. Not only are the gardens a must-see, but the close proximity to the lake is breathtaking! The sound of the waves crashing while looking out at the gardens, fountains, and grounds, made for one of my very favourite outings this summer!
Note:
Below I’ll address different elements that I take into consideration when planning in the hopes of clarifying any accessibility or suitability questions you may have as you plan your visit! These are all based on our personal experience (our oldest son is autistic and non-verbal, and we are a family of 5 with a 7-year-old, 6-year-old, and 2-year-old). I would suggest doing a quick search to ensure availability before heading out to avoid any disappointment (especially with changing health protocols, potential grounds upkeep, events, etc).Address
Gairloch Gardens is located approximately at:
1306 Lakeshore Rd E
Oakville, Ontario
L6J 1L6
Click here for a helpful map!
Parking
There was a free parking lot onsite, with a path that led directly to the gardens. We visited first thing in the morning on a weekday and upon arriving, there were plenty of spots available! By the time we left a couple of hours later, the lot was full. So, that’s definitely something to take into consideration. Other than that lot, I didn’t see anywhere else nearby to park.
Terrain/Accessibility
For the most part, everything was paved and very, very clean and neat. There were a few areas that had steps, but were also accessible by walking alternate paths nearby. The gardens had a gravel terrain, that was very even and well-maintained. The path around, with views of the lake, was paved and fairly wide.Quiet Spots
The whole location was very serene and quiet. Closer to the shore, the sounds of the waves and birds were louder, but otherwise, it was a very calm environment.
Size of Location/Busyness
There was plenty of space to explore and discover. We visited early on a weekday morning and it was very quiet, with only a few other people/ families walking around and taking photos. There are a variety of paths and areas to explore (see the next section!).
Variety of Activities
The gardens are absolutely stunning and different sections are scattered throughout the grounds. There’s a pond with a little bridge that is very picturesque, as well as a little pond filled with turtles, tadpoles, and frogs that captured E’s attention for a little while! The enclosed gardens are absolutely stunning, with a fountain in the center and different varieties of flowers planted and blooming in sections as you walk along the winding paths. Benches are situated within this area as well and it’s a beautiful spot to sit and take everything in. If you walk further south, there’s a paved area, with high rocks where you can sit and look out at the lake! The water itself is not accessible, but it’s an incredible spot regardless. If you continue walking on the paved path, there’s a little gazebo area and an enclosed little patch of green space, perfect for a picnic or to let the kids safely run around! I wouldn’t say that you’d need more than an hour, to see everything and maybe have a little picnic, but it is most definitely worth the drive! There was an art gallery, Oakville Galleries onsite, but it was closed when we visited. After checking their website, it seems that they are closed until further notice, but it does state that admission is free and it’s definitely something to consider adding on to your visit, once they re-open!Cost
There was no cost to visit!
For History of Gairlcoch Gardens and More Information Check Out:
Gairloch Gardens
Other helpful links in this series:
Summer Adventures & Accessibility!
What We Consider When Planning An Outing
Guild Park and Gardens
Glen Stewart Ravine
Crawford Lake Conservation Area
Sawmill Creek Valley Trail
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Sawmill Valley Trail
Sawmill Valley Trail provided our family with such a wonderful way to spend a Sunday afternoon! The trail was fairly easy, with no exposed roots or especially difficult terrain, which meant that all three kids, at their different levels and abilities, could navigate it independently and safely. As I mention below, we did remain cautious and vigilant of the creek, but for the most part, it was isolated from the trail by either railings or brush. It was a very peaceful walk, with the sounds of the rushing water as the soundtrack, and offered plenty of absolutely stunning views. It was almost entirely shaded, which helped it feel cool and not stifling on a fairly hot summer afternoon. The trail was also very clearly laid out, and whereas sometimes Y will attempt to detour or go off into the brush, this time it was easier to stay on course. Definitely one of the most family-friendly and enjoyable trails we’ve visited!
Note:
Below I’ll address different elements that I take into consideration when planning in the hopes of clarifying any accessibility or suitability questions you may have as you plan your visit! These are all based on our personal experience (our oldest son is autistic and non-verbal, and we are a family of 5 with a 7-year-old, 6-year-old, and 2-year-old). I would suggest doing a quick search to ensure availability before heading out to avoid any disappointment (especially with changing health protocols, potential grounds upkeep, events, etc).Address
There are a variety of entrances to the trail and addresses to accompany each. The main address we used to get close to our destination was
1955 Burnhamthorpe Rd W, Mississauga, ON L5L 3A5. There was also an entrance about 0.3 km from U of T Mississauga, so you may be able to input that as an alternate address to locate the trail. See below for the parking address we used that was super convenient!
Parking
We found a parking lot with free parking directly across the street from an entrance to the trail. Following the trail from here allowed us great views of the creek as well as the ability to explore a variety of different terrain. The parking lot was located immediately next door to Sawmill Valley Public School at:
3675 Sawmill Valley Dr
Mississauga, ON
L5L 2Z5
I’ve included a photo in the gallery below with parking information.
Terrain/Accessibility
We found the terrain very manageable. The kids were all able to walk independently and while we remained cautious and vigilant of the creek alongside the trail, it was a very pleasant and easy hike. The terrain did change a few times from paved, to light, even gravel, to a fabricated boardwalk, to a wooden one. The paths were very wide, with ample room to pass anyone walking by and at no point did we feel too confined. The boardwalk had a rail on one side and not the other and Y attempted to step off of it a couple of times, so that is something to note or be aware of. Unlike Glen Stewart Ravine or Crawford Lake, it isn’t enclosed on both sides (links to both trails can be found below). Photos of the different paths and terrain are included in the gallery below.Quiet Spots
Overall, the trail was very quiet. There was a small stretch where you could hear the sounds of traffic from nearby roads, apart from that, the sound of the creek was the main thing heard! There was a formation of rocks that the kids sat on near the creek to take a break about midway through, other than that there weren’t many places to sit and rest.
Size of Location/Busyness
We visited on a Sunday afternoon in July and it was not busy at all! We occasionally passed other families or people walking dogs, otherwise, it was very quiet!Variety of Activities
As I mentioned above in the Terrain/ Accessibility portion, there are a variety of terrains to explore, as well as different areas where you can stop and look at the creek fairly closely. There was an underpass with a few different murals that was a fun photo spot as well! We passed families who were walking dogs or biking, both of which are great options as well, if applicable for your family.Cost
There was no cost to visit!
Other helpful links in this series:
Summer Adventures & Accessibility!
What We Consider When Planning An Outing
Guild Park and Gardens
Glen Stewart Ravine
Crawford Lake Conservation Area
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Crawford Lake Conservation Area
We’ve visited a lot of different trails as a family, but I can honestly tell you this was one of my very favorites! The grounds were immaculately kept, there was ample space to explore and run around, the scenery was breathtaking, and there was a boardwalk that was long enough that it was worth the travel time/visit, but not so long that the kids couldn’t manage it! Given how far the drive is, I would definitely plan to take plenty of snacks or, if possible for your family, a full picnic, albeit keeping in mind the time limit in your booking (explained below). It’s a really worthwhile outing and there’s so much to learn and take in from your visit!
Note:
Below I’ll address different elements that I take into consideration when planning in the hopes of clarifying any accessibility or suitability questions you may have as you plan your visit! These are all based on our personal experience (our oldest son is autistic and non-verbal, and we are a family of 5 with a 7-year-old, 6-year-old and 2-year-old). I would suggest doing a quick search to ensure availability before heading out to avoid any disappointment (especially with changing health protocols, potential grounds upkeep, events, etc).
Address
3115 Conservation Road
Milton, ON, L9T 2X3
Parking
Once you’ve shown your reservation and entered the gates, there are a few different parking lots on site with ample parking. We were able to park right near the visitor centre, which was very close to the beginning of the Woodland and Side Bruce Trails, as well as the Crawford Lake Trail we ultimately ended up doing! There’s a very helpful map that you can download from the website, otherwise there are markings and signs posted throughout.
Terrain/Accessibility
We were able to complete the boardwalk trail that goes around Crawford Lake with E in a stroller and both boys walking. It was completely manageable with the stroller (summer 2020) and smooth enough that the boys were able to safely walk it! N did get a splinter when he touched the rail, so that’s something to be cautious of with kids especially, but otherwise, we found it perfectly family-friendly! There are photos in the gallery below which will give you an idea as to the width and construction of the boardwalk itself, if you need any clarification. I liked that it was enclosed and that the boys could walk ahead independently without the fear of them detouring!
Having said that, we did attempt an alternate trail before finding the boardwalk and a family very kindly stopped us and suggested we go no further with the stroller, especially since the terrain was much more difficult to navigate (large rocks, exposed roots, more muddy than gravel, etc). If you’re looking for a more intense experience through the forest area, that’s definitely an option, but if smoother terrain is needed or you have very young kids, I’d suggest sticking to the boardwalk that surrounds the lake.
Quiet Spots
There were little areas just off of the boardwalk, complete with benches and an area to rest/ have some water and snack, etc., that we came across every now and then (I share an example in the gallery below). This was great to re-group, get an alternate view of the lake and pull out snacks or sunscreen, without causing traffic on the boardwalk itself! It was also fairly enclosed, so if M or I sat at the little entrance, the kids could walk around the little deck area with no issue.Size of Location/ Busyness
The reservation site (located in the cost section below) has a status bar that provides information regarding how busy the park currently is. Having said that, it is very large, with many offshoots and plenty of space to explore. Even when we visited in the middle of a summer day, there was still plenty of space and we didn’t feel overwhelmed or crowded at any point!
Variety of Activities
There is so much to do here! We mainly stuck to the boardwalk, but there’s also the Hide and Seek Trail where you’ll find a variety of beautiful, large wood carvings that seamlessly blend into the surroundings, and where you can learn about species at risk in Ontario. At the Longhouse Village you can visit, “seasonal exhibits that explore contemporary Indigenous art and culture” which is both fascinating and an important and meaningful experience.
Cost
Reservations must be made in order to visit and there are time limits to your visit! You can reserve by clicking the link here!
The website clearly states that, “Support persons for people with disabilities are free of charge.” We really appreciated this and it helped keep the cost of the outing down for our family.
Otherwise, the fees are as follow:
Adult (15-64) $9.50 +HST
Senior (65 & over )$7.50 +HST
Child (5-14) $6.50 +HST
Child (4 & under) Free
For more information, check out:
Crawford Lake Conservation Area
Other helpful links in this series:
Summer Adventures & Accessibility!
What We Consider When Planning An Outing
Guild Park and Gardens
Glen Stewart Ravine
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Glen Stewart Ravine
We absolutely loved exploring Glen Stewart Ravine! Seemingly tucked within the side streets in the Beaches, the walk along the boardwalk through the brush is peaceful and stunning. There is something for everyone! If you’re looking for a fairly quick trail on even terrain, sticking to the boardwalk is your best bet and is a beautiful experience. If climbing (tons of) stairs is more your thing, then there are a few staircases scattered throughout the trail that provide alternate breathtaking views of the ravine, while also leading you out to the street where there are shops and restaurants to explore. There’s also rougher terrain, if you’re interested in a more demanding hike, where you’re able to get closer to streams and nature!
Note:
Below, I’ll address different elements that I take into consideration when planning, in the hopes of clarifying any accessibility or suitability questions you may have as you plan your visit! These are all based on our personal experience (our oldest son is autistic and non-verbal, and we are a family of 5 with a 7-year-old, 6-year-old and 2-year-old). I would suggest doing a quick search to ensure availability before heading out to avoid any disappointment (especially with changing health protocols, potential grounds upkeep, events, etc).
Address
351 Glen Manor Drive (see note below)
Parking
We park on Glen Manor Drive E. There is ample street parking along side streets, however this spot, specifically, is near an entrance to the trail that is more accessible, whereas other entrance points involve plenty of stairs.Terrain/Accessibility
The first time we visited we brought a stroller for E. After about 15 minutes, we took it back to the car and set out again on foot. There is a somewhat uneven sandy/gravel entrance that leads to a boardwalk that is fairly wide and accessible, but if you’re looking to explore off of that path, the terrain is very difficult. There are rocks, exposed roots, brush and uneven ground that makes it difficult to navigate. There are also a variety of staircases throughout the trail, however, after climbing them, we realized they only lead to other side streets surrounding the park and other than alternate views of the ravine, rather than any other trails or such. I’ve included photos in the gallery below, to give you an idea of what the terrain is like, both on the boardwalk and off!
Quiet Spots
We found the whole outing very quiet and not overly stimulating or overwhelming in terms of a sensory experience. You can’t really hear the traffic or any other city sounds, and other than the rustling of the trees and birds, it was very peaceful. There are benches occasionally positioned throughout the trail, if you need to take a moment to stop and re-group. There is also plenty of shade and even on a hot summer day, it didn’t feel stifling.Size of Location/ Busyness
We have visited early in the morning and mid-afternoon, and neither time were busy. There was ample space to explore and even though the boardwalk is somewhat narrow, it didn’t feel crowded. If you’re only sticking to the boardwalk, a half-hour should give you more than enough time, making it a great outing if you’re looking for something that isn’t intense and can be enjoyed in a fairly short amount of time, without getting too overwhelmed. The first time we visited, Y had a difficult time regulating during the walk, but managed to complete the entire boardwalk as well as a part of the rougher terrain trail, before he needed to head back to the car.
Variety of Activities
The walk along the boardwalk is very peaceful, as you’re surrounded by brush and the sounds of streams, rustling trees, and birds. Other than locals going for walks, the main activity seemed to be jogging and dog walking along the trails. We visited in both the summer and the fall, and the colours of the changing leaves in the fall were spectacular!Cost
There is no cost to visit, including free street parking nearby.
Other helpful links in this series:
Summer Adventures & Accessibility!
What We Consider When Planning An Outing
Guild Park and Gardens
victoriarosenberg.com 